Having a farm and tending to animals, I have had to change that attitude of being so independent. I had to quickly learn that there were many times that I needed a helping hand. If an animal were sick or injured, I couldn't hold them and tend to their needs. I had to reach out to my alpaca neighbors and friends to give me a hand from time to time. That was one of the harder things I had to learn believe it or not. I never mind helping others but accepting help has not been as easy. It is kind of sad that we see reaching out for help as such a sign of weakness. I'm not sure if I learned that because of being in a male dominated field for so long and unfortunately had a number of supervisors that were looking for any signs of weakness on my part. It was quite engrained in me that fierce independence. Boy was I ever wrong in that attitude. It took a bit before I figured out that the key to asking for help is to ask the right folks too. I've been so fortunate that when I moved to Oregon, I found some amazing friends that come through for me. They have been here for the good times and the bad, the animal illnesses and my own and I have been there for them in return. It's how it should be! Life is way too hard to keep having that mindset that Independence is a virtue. Yes, we need to be independent and interdependent. A community needs each other. Somehow we have become so much about "me, me, me," in this culture that we have lost that connection to the other. There is such strength from having a community.
So as I hack away and go through a box of tissues, I'm so grateful for those that brought me soup and helped me rake my fields and feed my critters. I still feel like crud but at the same time, I feel like a million bucks knowing I have such wonderful friends!
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